What are Deliberate Family Events?

Our family has been honored to share our music and ministry as the Frye Family Band in such places as Punxsutawney, PA, Rapid City, SD, Austin, TX and many other places in-between. During our time on the road we have been asked many questions, not just about music, but often about family, marriage and raising up children of purpose. Through these conversations we have realized the need, even in our churches, for a ministry to help equip families to overcome the challenges of societal pressures, complacency, and generational sin.

We have seen God at work in so many ways. And like the story of the widow’s oil and flour found in 1 Kings 17:7-16, we have witnessed the Truth of God’s provision when we have been willing to trust Him with our all. God truly does take the little we have to offer and multiplies it, making up the difference in order that His work will be made complete. We have seen this during our years as caregivers, throughout each new season of homeschooling, and in our music ministry.

Jesus tells us in John 16:33 to “…take heart, because I have overcome the world.” We believe this hope allows us, not just to survive, but to thrive as families in the 21st century church. While we speak to some of this during our concerts, in response to the similarity and frequency of questions asked of us by those in attendance, we have developed Deliberate Family Events.

These one, two, or three day events are specifically designed to engage, equip and energize families in their God given roles and purposes. Deliberate Family Events include corporate worship, topical sessions (chosen by the host from the list below), and a Frye Family Band concert.

Deliberate Marriage Event

This event includes, worship with the Frye Family Band, three teaching sessions, handout materials, discussion questions, and Q&A.

Event Flow

  • 9:00 AM Worship with the Frye Family Band 
  • 9:15 AM The Spiritual Significance of Marriage Part 1

In this session Tom unpacks the relationship between Jesus and His bride (the Church) to help us better understand our roles as husbands and wives.

  • 10:25 (approx.) Worship with the Frye Family Band followed by The Spiritual Significance of Marriage Part 2

Drawing from the information from session one, Tom examines the parallels between Jesus’ relationship with His Bride and our relationship with our spouse.

  • 12:45 PM (approx.) Worship with the Frye Family Band followed by Session three Above All Else.

Drawing from Ephesians six, this session offers practical tips to help couples put the lessons from the morning sessions into practice in their home and marriage.

Event Ends between 2:00 and 2:30pm.

Sunday

Make this a two or three day event with Sunday Morning Worship with the Frye Family Band and message from Tom entitled What is Your Story? This lesson offers powerful truths from scripture that helps us see our story and live out our God-given purpose and passion for the sake of advancing God’s Kingdom in the hearts and minds of those to whom we are called.

Frye Family Band Concert can be scheduled Friday or Saturday evening, Sunday afternoon or evening, or in lieu of the Sunday Message, the Frye Family Band can share a message through stories and songs.

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DELIBERATE MARRIAGE

The Spiritual Significance of Marriage, Session 1 – Drawing from Ephesians 5:21-33 as well as other related scripture texts, session one examines the relationship between God the Father and God and Jesus, and between Jesus and His Bride the Church highlighting the parallels between these relationships and Christian Marriage to better understand the importance of the unique and collective role of the husband and wife.

The Spiritual Significance of Marriage, Session 2 – Continuing with the theme of session one, session two highlights the importance these truths play in the spiritual development of our marriage and the positive role this plays in the lives of those around us including our children and other couples in our sphere of influence

Above All Else, Session 3 – Drawing from Proverbs 4:23 and Ephesians 6:10-20, session three offers practical real life examples and tips to protect both our heart and the heart of our spouse, so that we can most effectively live out God’s purpose for our marriage.

DELIBERATE MEN

Leading Like a Warrior – Encourages men to live lives of ruthless trust in the Father’s call and explores the impact a legacy of faith men can have on their families and others.

Embracing the Mess – Life is messy, relationships are messy, and God tells us “in this life you will have trouble”. Embracing the Mess is a reminder that God calls us to “make disciples” which is anything but sanitary.

Breaking Generational Strongholds – They are often overlooked and routinely dismissed and ignored, but if not dealt with, generational strongholds can limit our joy and sabotage God’s purpose for our lives and the lives of our family. In this very honest and transparent session Tom relates the truly amazing journey of God’s gracious Fathering in his life, which helped him recognize and break the chains of generational bondage. Freeing him to experience God’s peace and pursuing God’s purpose for his life. A reality, which is available to all followers of Jesus.

DELIBERATE WOMEN

The Loving Heart – Encourages women to live lives of ruthless trust in the Father’s call on their lives and the important role they play in the Kingdom. Drawing from many scriptural examples, the loving heart. explores the impact a legacy of faith that women can have in the lives of their families, friends, and others.

Embracing the Mess – Life is messy, relationships are messy, and God tells us “in this life you will have trouble”. Embracing the Mess is a reminder that God calls us to “make disciples” which is anything but sanitary.

Breaking Generational Strongholds – They are often overlooked and routinely dismissed and ignored, but if not dealt with, generational strongholds can limit our joy and sabotage God’s purpose for our lives and the lives of our family. In this very honest and transparent session Tom relates the truly amazing journey of God’s gracious Fathering in his life, which helped him recognize and break the chains of generational bondage. Freeing him to experience God’s peace and pursuing God’s purpose for his life. A reality, which is available to all followers of Jesus.

DELIBERATE FAMILY

Raising a Family of Purpose –This session offers practical tips from scripture and Tom and Lisa’s thirty years of marriage, parenting, and ministry to equip parents to teach their children to model God’s love through acts of service inside and outside our homes, offering practical ways parents can apply their unique roles in their homes to instill in their children a lifestyle of faith and worship while raising the next generation of disciples.

Parenting as a Team – Tom and Lisa Frye, have been married for thirty years. They have three married children and three grandsons. This session offers practical tips they have learned from both their successes and failures. Through Scriptural Truth and personal examples, Parenting as a Team offers a template to keep parents unified as they strive to stay focused on parenting’s big picture.

The Ministry of Reconciliation – We all have family, and where there is family there is often conflict. If left unresolved, these conflicts can result in awkwardness and will sometimes even divide our family. As the Apostle Paul reminds us in 2 Corinthians 5:18, reconciliation is a ministry. In this session, Tom unpacks practical tips to help families deal with conflict in ways that will avoid lingering frustration and also offer a roadmap for restoration to divided relationships. 

DELIBERATE EVENT FOLLOW-UP MESSAGE

What’s Your Story? – This powerful message offers practical tips and examples from Scripture and Tom’s personal life that give the listener a roadmap to find healing from personal and generational pain. Through both his story and examples from scripture, this message shines the light on not only our personal healing, but also on how God is able to use even our deepest wounds as motivation to advance His Kingdom.

This message can be a stand-alone message, is often used as a Sunday morning follow up message to the Deliberate Events.

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``His family is so special, as they shared in worship, as they shared in testimony, small group studies this weekend, wow! They just have such an awesome way of bringing the foundation of God through their family, what a blessing to have them and I would invite you to invite them to come to your church or your event because you'll be blessed also.``
Pastor Rod Smith
Chippewa United Methodist Church, Beaver Falls, PA
Our passion has always been to encourage the Body to live our their individual and collective purposes, and I am more and more convinced that many of our struggles as individuals and as a nation are born out of the erosion of the family. Our hope is to encourage families to embrace an attitude of service in our homes, our churches, our communities and to the uttermost parts of the world, for the sake of the Gospel.
Pastor Brad Kittle
Praise Point Church, Willshire, OH

Our passion has always been to encourage the Body to live our their individual and collective purposes, and I am more and more convinced that many of our struggles as individuals and as a nation are born out of the erosion of the family. Our hope is to encourage families to embrace an attitude of service in our homes, our churches, our communities and to the uttermost parts of the world, for the sake of the Gospel.