Everyone has hopes, dreams and what their perfect life would entail: the perfect house, job, car, family, friends. So, what stops them from living their perceived best life? What is it that knocks their desires out of phase?
Peace is something most of us long for. But, like the previous eighteen Out of Phase Blogs, peace is one more area of our life that can so easily get knocked out of phase. How is this possible? Because in our desire to avoid conflict we are all too willing to settle for a counterfeit peace.
Our story is the most powerful tool we have when it comes to sharing the Good News of Jesus with others. I remember hearing this in my early days of music ministry and thinking "I am not sure I want to tell my story, and I’m not sure anyone else wants to hear it either."
[An] equally destructive, out of phase response [to pain] is to seek to numb the pain through substance abuse, burying oneself in work or pleasure, or by chasing a constant need for accomplishment and approval. So, what is a healthy way to deal with pain? Head on.
We have family traditions, ethnic traditions, national traditions, and religious traditions. Traditions offer a sense of heritage and stability, they remind us of where we came from and help keep us grounded… when they are “in phase.”
Trying to control a person or situation always leads to frustration, doubt, and disappointment. However, when we are controlled by the Spirit we can live at peace knowing that we do not need to allow ourselves to be subjected to the manipulation of others.
Have you ever stopped to consider how you would like to be remembered, what kind of impact you hope to have on the world? If we allow ourselves, it is easy to dream big, to shoot for the stars, and go for the gusto! However, when the rubber meets the road often our dreams get high-jacked and our desires quickly knocked out of phase.
You are likely familiar with the nursery rhyme “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Words may not break our bones, but if left to run wild in the wilderness of our imaginations words can in fact wound our souls so deeply, if not filtered through the Truth of the Gospel.
To lower the bar of expectation and hold someone to less of a standard feels to me as though I am distrusting, cynical, or even jaded. However, through our many disappointments, frustrations, and even heartbreaks my wife and I have coined a phrase: "let people be people."
The word retreat has a few applications. In war, to retreat is to pull back from a fight that is no longer serving the mission in order to live to fight another day. Sometimes we retreat into our homes to unplug and rest either alone or with our spouse. We may go on retreats with likeminded people for our work, marriage, or spiritual well being.